How scary is too scary?
I have to ask this because after spending most of this month encouraging other bloggers to share details about how Limb Differences Aren’t Scary… Jordan has decided to be really scary this year for Halloween.
For years, she’s chosen to be butterflies, fairies and princesses for Halloween. But this year, she’s finally decided to have fun with her limb difference. She wants to be a dressed up zombie with a really gory little arm the looks like it was ripped off. I’m super excited for her excitement… but I started worrying about the kids and adults who will FREAK OUT.
Or will they?
I honestly don’t know. But I bought a ton of zombie makeup. I don’t know what I’m doing but I have latex and stickers and paint and I know we can make things look pretty gross.
What do you think? I guess limb differences aren’t scary… Unless you use it to your advantage on Halloween.
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Personal I think if she want’s to be silly and scary about it then make it fun for her Halloween is a time to express. Because no matter what you do or don’t do someone has something to say. As long as Jordan feels right about that’s all that matters.
I love that. Thanks, Jaimie.
Has she seen the costumes that Josh Sundquist has done incorporating his amputated leg? He uses his amputation as part of the costume. What Jordan wants to do sounds similar. Also, I think if she wants to make it scary then go for it!
I really don’t like the idea. In some ways it appears to tell other children that these differences are freaky and it’s okay to cringe and scream and be frightened But then we are going to turn around and not want other children to treat anyone with a difference like that every other day of the year. Bottom line we want children to enjoy Halloween and have fun but I can’t help but think somewhere in her darkest days to come (we all have them occasionally), this memory of her difference being among the spooky, scary aspects will be very depressing. How can the reaction be okay one day and not okay the next?
I’ve struggled with that question as well, Carolyn. I don’t have an answer. I didn’t encourage this costume idea… It was all Jordan’s. I don’t see any outside encouragement, it was all her idea. In her long-term Halloween costume plan, she hopes to be a cyborg with a broken arm two years from now. I have no idea where she’s getting the ideas.
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